When "golden rules" backfire.....

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. A phrase I have heard my entire life, sound and basic principle of managing relationships. Took me too much time and failed relationships to realize the fatal flaw with this approach. It is perfect when both parties are generally alike, for e.g....we are both direct, so just give me the facts, as I will unto you. Perfect harmony. It backfires when you aren't 2 peas in a pod. My solution, the Platinum Rule......Do unto others as they would want done to them.